Mental Health
7 Reflections in a Time of Loss
DEEP THOUGHTS AT A RED LIGHT — Lately, we’ve seen significant loss. And these memorable horrific moments of loss in my life continue to grow – the Guadalupe floods in the middle of the night on July 4th, 9/11, Katrina, the deaths, fire and damage in the summer of 2020, October 7th, and now the…
Read MoreThe Reality of Parenting in the Age of NIL – Part 2
As parents, you may think your kid is the next Tom Brady, Trevon Henderson, Katie Ledecky, or Scottie Scheffler. The reality is your child as a .0296% chance of becoming a professional athlete but a 100% chance of needing life and mental skills to face reality. For reference, NFL rosters comprise only 1696 individuals. Only…
Read MoreParenting Guide to Recruiting in the New NIL Era – Part 1
Things are changing in the recruiting process for high school athletes who desire to play at the collegiate level. In this new era of NIL (Name, Image, and Likeness), you need to guide your child on key smart and essential questions to ask a coach. Equally, if your athlete is not among the 2% to…
Read MoreNIL Damage: What is Happening?
On the surface, Name, Image, and Likeness (NIL) brings positive changes for student-athletes, but lurking below the surface of the money pile lies significant and widespread damage. In all honesty, the rules under the NIL House vs NCAA settlement cater to the upper 1-2% of athletes while causing major changes and devastation to the other…
Read MoreThe Life Work of My Father
Before my father passed away two and a half years ago at 84, he obviously spent considerable time preparing and organizing for his future passing. I have no idea how long it took him to classify and systematize all his life’s work, but he left me the easy task to know exactly what he held…
Read MoreWhat is a Holistic Approach?
Maybe you are hearing this concept for the first time, but do not know what it means to take a holistic approach to coaching or therapy. To be honest, if a holistic approach is not in place, then your life coach or therapist is NOT doing their job. A holistic approach involves evaluating the mind,…
Read MoreStrength: Train Towards It
The climate of the counseling profession is changing. Many train and affirm towards dependence rather than strength towards wellbeing. To be honest, there are a plethora of horrible therapists out there who are doing more harm than good. Instead of training clients towards strength and better decision-making, many in the mental health field are fostering…
Read MoreDeceptions of the Eating Disorder Community
No doubt, eating disorders reveal significant mental health issues. Eating disorders severely impact athletes who face high performance responsibilities and the demands of academics. These disorders produce a complexity which requires athletes to faithfully grasp all the influences to overcome and return to a normal relationship with food. Eating Disorders often referred to as ‘ED’…
Read More7 Results of Protecting
Never does a day go by when we wish for our kids to encounter struggles and problems. We actually want to protect them from such trouble. But we cannot stop challenges from coming to them. It thus begs the question; how do we know when to protect our children from difficulty and when to allow…
Read MoreDon’t be Afraid to Evaluate
To reach the next level at anything, we must evaluate ourselves. Please do not be afraid of engaging in this process. Evaluation is not to criticize and berate self, but to objectively examine skills and abilities. Whether in sport, job, hobby, or even your friendships and love life, looking at ‘performance’ is a first step…
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